We’re going to be talking about the importance of communication for a female. To start it, I want to share a story with you to again give you an idea of just how totally different men and women are when it comes to communication’
Keywords and their meaning.
FINE
This is the word we use at the end of any argument that we feel that we are right about but need to shut up. Never use fine to describe how a woman looks. This will cause you to have one of those arguments.
FIVE MINUTES
This is half an hour. it is equivalent to the five minutes that your football game is going to last before you take out the trash, so I feel that it’s an even trade.
NOTHING
This means something and you should be on your toes. “Nothing” is usually used to describe the feeling a woman has of wanting to turn you inside out, upside down, and backwards. “Nothing” usually signifies an argument that will last “Five Minutes” and end with the word “Fine”.
GO AHEAD (with raised eyebrows)
This is a dare. One that will result in a woman getting upset over “Nothing” and will end with the word “Fine”.
GO AHEAD (normal eyebrows)
This means “I give up” or “do what you want because I don’t care”. You will get a raised eyebrow “Go Ahead” in just a few minutes, followed by “Nothing” and “Fine” and she will talk to you in about “Five Minutes” when she cools off.
LOUD SIGH
This is not actually a word but is still often a verbal statement very misunderstood by men. A “Loud Sigh” means she thinks you are an idiot at that moment and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with you over “Nothing”.
SOFT SIGH
Again, not a word, but a verbal statement. “Soft “Sighs” are one of the few things that some men actually understand. She is content. Your best bet is to not move or breathe and she will stay content.
OH
This word followed by any statement is trouble. Example: “Oh, let me get that”. Or, “Oh I talked to him about what you were doing last night”. If she says “Oh” before a statement, run, do not walk, to the nearest exit. She will tell you that she is “Fine” when she is done tossing your clothes out the window. But do not expect her to talk to you for at least two days. “0h” as the lead to a sentence usually signifies that you are caught in a lie. Do not try to lie more to get out of it, or you will get raised eyebrows “Go Ahead” followed by acts so unspeakable that I can’t bring myself to write about them.
THAT’S OKAY
This is one of the most dangerous statements that a woman can say to a man. “That’s Okay” means that she wants to think long and hard before paying you retributions for whatever it is that you have done. “That’s Okay” it’s often used with the word “Fine’ and used in conjunction with a raised eyebrow “Go Ahead”. At some point in the near future, when she has plotted and planned, you’re going to be in some mighty big trouble.
PLEASE DO
This is not a statement; it is an offer. A woman is giving you the chance to come up with whatever excuse or reason you have for doing whatever it is that you have done. You have a fair chance to tell the truth, so be careful and you shouldn’t get a “That’s Okay”.
THANKS
A woman is thinking you. Do not faint, just say you’re welcome.
THANKS A LOT
This is much different than “Thanks”. A woman will say, “Thanks A Lot” when she is really ticked off at you. It signifies that you have hurt her in some callous way and will be followed by the “Loud Sigh”. Be careful not to ask what is wrong after the “Loud Sigh’ as she will only tell you “Nothing”.
Now that you enjoyed how different we may define words in our communications, let’s see why intimate conversation is important to women.
A good place to start, is looking at some of the emotional differences between men and women. Women tend to be more personal than men. And they have a deeper interest in people and feelings and in building relationships. Men are often more preoccupied with things that can be understood through logical deduction. And guys love to be involved in conqueror-oriented activities, wanting to compete for dominance whether it’s in the work area or on the sports field. Guys love things like football, boxing, hockey, fishing and hunting. They talk about how their team is the best, their fish is the largest and their animal was mounted because it was so big. There’re a few women who love this kind of stuff but why would a woman be less interested in a boxing match? I mean there’s not a lot of personal relationships taking place in the boxing match. Women love reading the books that have to do with the relationships. It’s usually women who have a greater love for God and the relationships she can develop with other women. Men don’t seem too interested in building intimate relationships with women or with other men.
If she is more personal and is relationship centered, how does she develop the relationships? She takes time to know people and that mostly takes place through communication. Women become an intimate part of the people they know and the things that surround them.
Let me give you an example. Have you ever invited friends over without first asking your wife? I will never forget when I made that mistake early in my life. You would have thought I had insulted her and attempted to make her look bad in front of the guest. What I didn’t understand at the time, was that her house was such a part of who she was, and since I didn’t give her time to clean house, she was afraid they would think less of her as a person. And of course, to try to defend myself, I said, “They just came over to spend time with us. They didn’t come to look at the house”. I had no idea how much her home was a part of her.
And along this same line, and I will close with this, until our next time together on this subject, I made another mistake when we were getting ready to move. My family was a military family which meant we moved often. And to me, a move was just a move. No attachment to what I was leaving behind.
Well, I learned that a female may have to move but she also is dealing with what she is leaving behind. I came home one day after work to find my wife crying. Ok, I do know moving is harder for some than for others, so I asked what had her upset. The response was not what I expected. She said, “The curtains in the living room probably won’t fit the windows in the house we end up living in”. And being a guy, I said we would just buy new curtains. But everything in our house had become a part of who she was.
Women become an intimate part of the things and people who are important to her. And that is especially true of communication. Look for part two of communication, coming out soon.
By J Douglas